Writing the Check – the best piece of advice I’ve ever received

I’ve received (and read) lots of advice in my lifetime.  I’ve even had an opportunity to give advice to others. 

The most valuable piece of advice I’ve received was from my dear friend, Jay Scott, around 1991 or 1992 (paraphrasing):

“Mr. Dailey (we refer to each other formally, of course), everything in life comes down to writing a check.  You want a new car?  Write a check.  You want to learn a new skill?  Write a check.  You want to add something nice to your house?  Write a check.  You’re either going to write the check or not.  All the rest is just detail.” 

When he said it, I didn’t think much of it.  It sounded like a flippant observation that oversimplified life’s choices. 

As I’ve lived my life and encountered tons of situations, opportunities, and decisions, I’ve come to realize the genius in his observation. 

The check may be money…the literal meaning of the word “check.”  Sometimes the check is the decision to invest something of your own personal value into an idea, an object, or a cause.  The check becomes a commitment of your finite time and energy…and maybe your money. 

The idea that all the rest is just detail reinforces the notion that while we may elaborate on our decisions with lengthy justifications or stories, at the core, it’s about that decisive moment of commitment.

I’ve found that most of the time I have my decision made about something within a minute of considering my alternatives (whatever they may be).  Whether I act immediately on that decision (write the check) or wait some undetermined time period (sometimes years) is another matter.

I’ve applied this fundamental knowledge about humans and their check-writing decisions many times.  If my boss says that he supports an idea or strategy, I try to get him to “write the check” about that support as quickly as possible.  It’s easy to support an idea in the abstract or tell your employee that you support him or her.  It’s something entirely different to then act on that support by “writing the check.” 

If the boss (or anyone for that matter) talks about how they believe in something or they support something, if they’re not willing to write the check for it, you know they’re just telling a story.  Only when they commit their check (money, time, reputation, etc.) to something are they truly supporting it.  Another phrase, “having skin in the game” applies here.   No skin in the game, no commitment.

It all comes down to writing the check.  

p/c – Tommy Lisbin – Unsplash Why? This climber has written the check(s) and is fully committed to this task. And, the goal is in sight.