Riding Your Fender?

This is a term I learned from motorcycling.  It refers to a rider who always sees his fender.   In order to see his fender the fender rider isn’t looking out very far ahead.  Obstacles seem to come out of nowhere.  The fender rider often gets lost, or ignores the easiest path, since so much effort is given to looking at the trail in front of the fender.  When asked to describe the ride, the fender rider usually can’t tell you much, except that it was a harrowing challenge and he is worn out.

For those who have never ridden a motorcycle, consider driving down the freeway at 75 mph (or 65 mph, if you prefer to stay within the speed limit).  If you’re looking down at the road as it whizzes by, or looking just in front of your bumper, the world is moving extremely fast.  Everything in front of you is a blur, and you are a danger to yourself and everyone who shares the road with you.

By looking up, extending your horizon, driving at freeway speeds is much easier.  You can see what’s coming and plan your route more effectively.  Small course corrections make it easier to avoid big obstacles ahead.

Consider your personal and professional life.  Are you riding your fender?  If so, it’s time to look up.

Enjoy Your Journey

JulnJen-Blue

I can’t wait until recess starts.
When summer vacation starts, I will…
When I get the right score on my SAT, I will be able to get into the college of my choice.
When I graduate from high school, I will…
When I get accepted to college, I will…
What major best fits my skills and interests?
When I graduate from college, I will get my real job.
Once I get promoted, I will be able to afford…
I can’t wait until I get married. I will be able to…
If I can get that new job, we will be able to afford a new car.
We really should buy a house before we do anything else.
Now that we have our first baby, we need to put off some of the things we wanted to do.
Once the baby starts preschool, I will have more time to…
With both kids in soccer, dance, and baseball, we are pretty much the parental chauffer service.
Once soccer season ends, we can…
The new position at work will require a lot of travel. Once I get things set up, I won’t have to travel as much and I won’t miss as many of our kids’ practices or games. What about their homework?
Once summer vacation starts, we will have time to…
I sure can’t wait until the kids are in high school and can drive. I will have a lot more time to…
I hope they get good grades and score well on their SAT’s so they can…
Once the kids graduate, we can…
Now that our kids are in college, we are…
It sure will be great when they graduate from college and can do…
When we pay off our house, we can…
Once I retire, I will have a lot more time to…

Someone once said, “Life is that thing that happens while you are busy making other plans.”
Life is a journey…you only get one. Most of the really good stuff happens between the milestones.

*By the way, those are my daughters in the picture. My oldest (on the right) got married this past June. She and her husband are expecting their first child in May. Time flies! Enjoy your journey!

Let’s Get Started!

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As we reflect on 2012, and think about our personal and professional goals for 2013, here is a question to ponder:

What if next year is your last?

I know that sounds a bit morbid, but, hear me out.

I just heard about someone (a friend of a friend) who found out that he has a brain tumor. It is aggressively metastasizing, and even with surgery, chemo, radiation, etc., he probably only has one year to live. And, with all of the treatment regimens, and their various side effects, he really won’t have very many days in the coming year to do what he wants.

Sooner or later, each of us will face our final year. It could be next year, 10 years from now, 50 years from now, or even longer. It is only a matter of time. And, chances are, we won’t be told that this is our final year.

So, what if next year is your last year on Earth? What would you plan to do with your year? What is the first image that popped into your head when you read that question? 365 precious days…

As far as we know, human beings are the only inhabitants of the planet that understand and can contemplate their own mortality. We are the only ones that can conceive of, or visualize, a world without us. Nearly every living thing has an instinctive drive to prolong its life. But, human’s drive for life goes way beyond mere instinct. We go through each day knowing there is an eventual end, as much as we may ignore it.

Thought about what you would do in your final year yet?

There is no right or wrong answer to this question. The answers vary for each person, and depend on what they’ve done in their life, how connected they are with their family and friends and their sense of whether or not they have lived a fulfilling life (by whatever definition they want to use). Notice I didn’t mention that it depended upon the person’s age? Whether a person is 30, 50, or 90, facing the final year question leads ultimately to their definition of a fulfilling life.

By my own definition (the only one that counts), I’ve had an extremely fulfilling life to this point. The first image that pops into my head is that of my wife and kids, and how my departure would impact them. I really don’t have a list of things that I’d have to accomplish if this were my final year to add that last bit of fulfillment.

This doesn’t mean I don’t have big goals and ideas of what my future should hold (a future that would be cut short if this were my final year). One of my goals is to write more, and post what I’m writing to my own blog site.

I think a post asking the reader to ponder his or her own mortality and their personal definition of a fulfilled life is a fitting place to start. I hope you will agree, and that you will continue to stop by and check out my latest posts.