It’s not what you say out of your mouth that determines your life. It’s what you whisper to yourself that has the most power. –Robert T. Kiyosaki
The first person to give you feedback is yourself…in the form of self-talk. You have 24/7 access to your internal talk track. Your messaging is unfiltered and brutally honest.
Does unfiltered and honest mean accurate? Does it mean valuable? Not necessarily.
The truth is that no matter how incorrect your self-talk is, or how much you try to ignore it, you are your most trusted advisor. You have the most power over yourself (for better or worse).
Negative self-talk is easy. Bad news travels fast, especially when it doesn’t have to travel.
Positive self-talk is harder, and sometimes difficult to believe. Our positive self-talk can sound a bit crazy, which makes it easier to discount.
Status quo is powered by doubt in our positive self-talk.
The most successful people I know face challenges with self-talk. They happen to believe their positive self-talk just a little more than the negative.
The negative is right there, trying to hold them back. Somehow they’ve found a way to focus on the positive, finding ways to push past their wave of doubt.
They’ve usually found kindred spirits who can help strengthen their positive self-talk. A support network that reinforces their crazy ideas. The best support network doesn’t fully buy-in to the crazy. They merely create an environment where it’s okay to explore the crazy. To bring it out in the open and let it breathe a little.
And, that’s the real secret of self-talk. We all have negative and positive self-talk rolling around in our heads. But, if we can allow the positive to get a little breathing room, that’s usually all it takes to win the internal battle against the negative.
Here’s the challenge: The war between negative and positive is never over. You have to win it one battle at a time.