Personal Responsibility – Grandpa Bob Encouraging Leadership

There’s a big difference between having an opinion about what’s broken and taking responsibility for making something better.

We live in a time when commentary is easy.

We can criticize from the sidelines. We can point out what’s wrong. We can explain why the system is broken, why the leaders failed, why the plan won’t work, or why the people in charge should have known better.

And much of that criticism may be true.

Something really may be broken. People may have failed. The system may need to change.

But is criticism going to be our only contribution?

Creating rather than complaining is an act of disciplined hope. It says I can see what’s wrong, but I’m still willing to work.

Complaining usually says, “Someone should fix this.”

Creating says, “I can improve one piece of this.”

That shift moves us from the sidelines onto the field.

Some problems aren’t ours to carry. We shouldn’t excuse the people who caused them. We don’t pretend the risks aren’t real or the damage doesn’t exist.

But we refuse to stop at frustration.

We must ask better questions.

What can I build? What can I repair? What can I encourage? What can I organize? What can I make clearer, stronger, more honest, more useful, more human?

And what can I do even if I didn’t create the problem?

That’s leadership.

Leadership isn’t only authority or title, position, budget, or permission.

Leadership is seeing a gap and stepping into it.

It’s making the call no one wants to make. Writing the note. Cleaning up the mess. Telling the truth. Taking the first small step.

We don’t have to fix everything to make something better.

That’s important to understand, because the size of the problem can become an excuse for doing nothing.

If I can’t fix the whole system, why bother? If I can’t change the whole culture, why try?

But that’s spectator thinking.

Builders think differently. Builders understand that every useful thing starts smaller than the problem it hopes to address.

A bridge starts with a first beam. A book starts with a first sentence.

A movement starts with a first conversation.

A better future starts when someone decides their contribution will be more than complaint.

It says I may not be responsible for the whole problem, but I am responsible for what I do next.

It says tomorrow can be better than today, and I’m willing to put something in motion.

The invitation is simple.

Don’t let your only contribution be commentary.

Find one thing you can improve.

One process. One relationship. One decision. One conversation. One neglected corner of the work.

Start there. Build there. Serve there.

The system may still be broken. The leaders may still have failed.

But the future belongs to the ones who choose to create anyway.

Photo by Alex Gruber on Unsplash – The future is shaped by people willing to begin.

I learned a new acronym recently:

PICNIC–Problem in chair, not in computer.

“Way” back in the early 90’s when one of my jobs was desktop support, I referred to the same phenomena as a “nut on the keyboard” problem. At least 80% of the “computer problems” were actually human problems.

It’s the same thing with Cesar Millan, The Dog Whisperer. Most “dog” problems are human problems waiting to be solved. Cesar spends most of his time “whispering” to dog owners. Cesar can’t call his show The Human Whisperer, even if that’s an accurate description of the service he provides. To do so would alienate the audience that he’s trying to help.

The challenge with humans is that most of us would rather not admit that we are the problem. It’s so much easier to blame the computer, the dog, the airline, the car, traffic, evil Republicans, evil Democrats, government, the economy, our manager, our parents, our kids, society, the system. The list of excuses is infinite.

The good news is that the solution to most of these “problems” is in the chair.